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Ms. Green:
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Hello, Doctor Balis.
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Dr. Balis:
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Hello, Anna. Please, come in. So, how are your hands?
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Ms. Green:
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Oh, they are fine, you can hardly tell anymore...
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Dr. Balis:
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Hmm. They look fine. Did you actually burn your hands or was it just an excuse...
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Ms. Green:
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Doctor!
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Dr. Balis:
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Well?
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Ms. Green:
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I actually burned my hands. It was the worst burn I've ever had in my entire life, Doctor. Luckily, I'm a fast healer. But all that night, I had to sleep...well, just lie in bed, really, with an ice pack. It was very painful. I'm shocked, shocked, that you would even raise the possibility that I...
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Dr. Balis:
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I'm sorry, Anna, but I thought it was wise to ask.
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Ms. Green:
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I forgive you, Doctor.
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Dr. Balis:
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Good.
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Ms. Green:
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But it's true that I would have called and canceled our session last week even if I didn't burn my hands.
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Dr. Balis:
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Oh?
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Ms. Green:
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I had something to do and...
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Dr. Balis:
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With Trevor?
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Ms. Green:
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No, actually, I have to keep it a secret from him until the very last moment.
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Dr. Balis:
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Hmm. So what did you do?
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Ms. Green:
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Well, remember all those drawings Martin did of me?
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Dr. Balis:
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Yes. I still have them in my files.
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Ms. Green:
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They were good, don't you think?
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Dr. Balis:
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They had some artistic merit.
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Ms. Green:
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Well, I thought they were good. But, in any case, Martin had been making these really neat sketches for S&M fashion wear.
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Dr. Balis:
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Hmm?
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Ms. Green:
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He is very creative, and some of his ideas are really new and very cool looking. So he submitted his drawing to this S&M fashion show review board. And last week, he heard back from them--they really liked his stuff.
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Dr. Balis:
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Hmm.
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Ms. Green:
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The problem was that the show is in two weeks, and they require real samples of the outfits Martin conceived.
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Dr. Balis:
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That's not much time.
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Ms. Green:
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No. So I promised Martin that I would go with him to pick out the materials he needs to make all that stuff--he'll have three things in the show. And the only time I have to do this is in the evenings and on the weekends.
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Dr. Balis:
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I see. So that's why you had to skip our session last week?
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Ms. Green:
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I told him no, but Martin begged and begged. He is so stressed over this. So we went to this leather shop and picked out some very cool scraps--Martin's designs don't require a lot of material.
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Dr. Balis:
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Hmm.
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Ms. Green:
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Those guys do their own stuff right there on the premises, and they showed us what we would need to sew the scraps together--what kind of needles to use, what threads work best, and other very helpful hints. And then on Friday, we took off several hours for lunch and went to this giant hobby store on the Peninsula. I'm telling you, if you ever get the urge to do metal forging, or clay sculpting, or needlepoint, I can tell you just where to go now.
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Dr. Balis:
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Hmm.
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Ms. Green:
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Hmm. Don't think I haven't noticed your "hmms" today--there are a lot more of them than normal.
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Dr. Balis:
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Go on.
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Ms. Green:
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That's not much better. So, we went to this hobby place, and Martin loaded up on tons of stuff. We got a specialized sewing machine that can deal with leather and can even be used to make shoes and stuff. And we got this very cool punch-thing. You can insert spikes and snaps into it, and it punchs a hole through the material and permanently attaches all those things to it.
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Dr. Balis:
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I get the idea.
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Ms. Green:
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And then we got glue guns, and welders, and little metal thingies, and tons more leather scraps, and just a ton of very wonderful stuff. My only problem was that with the burns on my hands, I couldn't do as much touching and feeling as I would have liked to do.
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Dr. Balis:
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I'm sorry about your hands, Anna.
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Ms. Green:
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And then Saturday and Sunday, Martin and I spent putting together his designs for the show. I'll be his model.
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Dr. Balis:
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Really?
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Ms. Green:
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I thought that would be fun. I think I have the body to pull it off, don't you, Charles?
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Dr. Balis:
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I think you'll do fine. So how come you just didn't tell me all this on the phone last week? Why were you so vague?
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Ms. Green:
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Oh, that. Well, I don't want Trevor to know about any of this, not just yet.
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Dr. Balis:
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Why?
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Ms. Green:
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Well, Trevor gets all weird when it comes to Martin.
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Dr. Balis:
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Hmm.
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Ms. Green:
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I told him that it was stupid to be jealous of Martin, but...
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Dr. Balis:
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Why is it stupid for Trevor to be jealous of Martin? You were engaged once.
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Ms. Green:
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Well, it's all over between us. Now, we're just friends. I still think Martin is very smart, and we do have a lot in common.
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Dr. Balis:
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Hmm.
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Ms. Green:
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But Trevor...he is not very reasonable when it comes to my socializing with Martin. I don't know why he gets all stupid about it, when I have to be very understanding when it comes to his wife.
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Dr. Balis:
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Hmm.
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Ms. Green:
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I'm not even allowed to raise the subject of sex between him and his wife as an issue. But Martin and I go somewhere together, and Trevor just explodes with jealousy.
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Dr. Balis:
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And how do you feel about that?
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Ms. Green:
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Well, I think it's stupid, because we don't do anything that Trevor should be jealous about.
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Dr. Balis:
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I see. But how do you feel about it?
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Ms. Green:
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Sometimes, it makes me feel good that he cares so much.
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Dr. Balis:
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Hmm.
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Ms. Green:
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Sometimes, I feel like it's too much...way out of proportion.
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Dr. Balis:
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Go on.
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Ms. Green:
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And sometimes, I feel like he deserves it.
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Dr. Balis:
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How so?
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Ms. Green:
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Imagine just how bad I feel, laying in bed at night, knowing that he is with her. I have a very good imagination. I have these images...they drive me crazy sometimes. And I'm not even allowed to talk about it?
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Dr. Balis:
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Why does Trevor not want to talk about it?
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Ms. Green:
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He said that it just makes it so much more painful for him.
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Dr. Balis:
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Does he consider how you feel about it?
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Ms. Green:
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He said that it won't last much longer, I just have to be patient. It will just be a few more months...
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Dr. Balis:
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Hmm.
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Ms. Green:
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Stop saying that!
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Dr. Balis:
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I'm sorry, I didn't realize...
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Ms. Green:
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You don't realize just how annoying that is sometimes? Well, it's very annoying, so just stop it.
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Dr. Balis:
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Why doesn't Trevor just leave his wife now? What is he waiting for?
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Ms. Green:
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He said that there is a very good reason and that he will tell me when the time comes.
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Dr. Balis:
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I see. Does he have kids?
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Ms. Green:
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I don't know. He doesn't have any pictures in his wallet, and his clothes are free of kid-related stuff. Caren and Greg have a little girl, and they constantly pull out little wipes or toys or pacifiers out of their pockets. But Trevor is clean.
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Dr. Balis:
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Did you search his wallet and clothes?
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Ms. Green:
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Yes. And you don't have to tell me it was wrong, I know.
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Dr. Balis:
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How long do you plan to wait...
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Ms. Green:
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God, you're very annoying today. Look, our time is up. I've got to go now. I promised Martin I'd hurry over to his place for a fitting as soon as I'm done here. So I'm out of here. I'll see you next week, Doctor.
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Dr. Balis:
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All right, Anna. Have a good week.
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Ms. Green:
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You too.
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Doctor Balis' Notes on this Session
Transcripts of Anna Green's Communications
