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Dr. Balis:
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Good afternoon Sarah. How are you today?
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Ms. Wright:
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Hi Dr. B. I'm pretty good. How about you?
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Dr. Balis:
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I'm well, thank you. Only nine shopping days until Christmas--are you finished with everything?
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Ms. Wright:
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No, actually I've hardly begun.
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Dr. Balis:
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Oh? So I couldn't talk you into doing my shopping for me?
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Ms. Wright:
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Ha Ha, Dr. B. I wish someone would do my shopping too. I just can't seem to get into Christmas this year.
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Dr. Balis:
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Well that's not surprising considering what you've been through, Sarah.
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Ms. Wright:
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Yes I suppose so, but Christmas has always been my favorite time of the year. When I was little, my parents would always take us to our grandparents house for Christmas. They lived in Illinois, just north of Chicago. They lived in this beautiful Colonial house and Grandmother always had a Christmas tree in every room! Even the bathrooms had tiny decorated trees! But the entryway was alway my favorite. As we'd pull into the driveway, Granddaddy would be waiting for us, wearing that silly hat with the flaps over the ears. All of us girls would jump out of the car to hug Granddaddy, but my eyes were always on the door. I knew what I'd see even before we went inside. The entry was like a room in itself. Black and white tiled floor and a beautiful crystal chandelier hanging from the 20 foot ceiling, and the staircase in the middle that went up and then split into two other staircases, one to the right, one to the left. But the tree in that room was always where all the gifts were. It was huge! Floor to ceiling and every year Granddaddy would cut the tree down by himself. Even when he was too old to do it, he'd insist. When I was older, standing in front of that tree made me feel like a little girl. Safe and warm...and loved. Grandmother would come out of the kitchen wearing an apron with flour all over her face and hands and we'd jump into her arms for hugs and kisses, and she'd always say the same thing, "I ordered this beautiful snow just for you girls!" And we'd say, "Oh Grandmother, God makes the snow not you!" and she'd say, "Yes, but I asked God to send the snow for my little snow angels!"
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Dr. Balis:
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It sounds as though you have very fond memories of Christmas as a child.
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Ms. Wright:
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Oh yes!
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Dr. Balis:
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Do your grandparents still live in Illinois?
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Ms. Wright:
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No, they're both dead now.
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Dr. Balis:
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Oh I'm sorry.
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Ms. Wright:
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That's okay. Granddaddy died in the summer I turned 17, and Grandmother went just about 3 months later. They had been married over 60 years. They were so much in love that when Granddaddy died, I think Grandmother died of a broken heart. My parents are alot like that.
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Dr. Balis:
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Were these your mother's parents or your father's?
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Ms. Wright:
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My mother's. I never knew my father's parents. They both died before I was born. When Grandmother died, I felt so sorry for my mother. They were so close. But then Melissa was born not too long after that and my mother believes she is my Grandmother reincarnated.
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Dr. Balis:
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Really? What do you think?
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Ms. Wright:
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I think Mother is probably right. When Melissa is old enough to understand, I'm sure Mother will want her to go through past life regression therapy to verify it.
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Dr. Balis:
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Your family has some very unique beliefs.
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Ms. Wright:
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Yes, I suppose some would think it strange, but to us it is just normal. We always believed that death was just another beginning and that the people we loved in one life we would find in our next life also. The roles may have changed but the soul is still there and that is the part that we recognize in each other.
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Dr. Balis:
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And this is the same belief system you've based your relationship with Robby on, is that correct?
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Ms. Wright:
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Yes for the most part. We are bonded to each other from some age long past, and we will be together again in some age to come. Even my mother recognized Robby's soul the first time she met him. We've all been together before.
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Dr. Balis:
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I see and do you...
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Ms. Wright:
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I'd rather not reminisce anymore, Dr. B.
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Dr. Balis:
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That's fine Sarah. Is there something else you'd like to talk about?
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Ms. Wright:
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No, just not that. There's just no way you're ever going to understand.
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Dr. Balis:
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You're probably right Sarah, but I still find it somewhat fascinating.
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Ms. Wright:
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Yeah well...let's change the subject. I've only got another 2 weeks of work left. I'll be glad when I'm finished. At first I was unsure about quitting my job, but the closer it gets to my last day the better I feel.
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Dr. Balis:
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Have they found a replacement for you yet?
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Ms. Wright:
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No but they'd better find one soon, or I'm not going to have time to train someone. I actually wanted a month to train the new person, but I guess that's not going to happen.
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Dr. Balis:
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Do you think they're stalling in hopes you'll decide to stay?
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Ms. Wright:
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No! That would be a Robby thing to do. No, I just think they're having trouble finding someone with enough experince to handle the position.
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Dr. Balis:
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So you are looking forward to having some free time to yourself?
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Ms. Wright:
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Yes, at least for awhile. Until Robby needs my attention more and more. With the money Jeff is giving me every week, which is all going into a separate account in my name only, I shouldn't have to worry too much about finances.
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Dr. Balis:
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Jeff still isn't giving you any grief about the money?
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Ms. Wright:
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No, he knows better. Actually, I've put the account in mine and my mother's name, that way if anything happens to me, my mother will get the money instead of Jeff.
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Dr. Balis:
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What do you intend to use that money for?
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Ms. Wright:
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Whatever I want. All the things I've wanted to do and places I've wanted to see that Jeff would never allow. I want to go to New Orleans during Mardi Gras. I want to take my mother on a Carribbean cruise. She wants to try scuba diving. There's a ton of things I want to do!
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Dr. Balis:
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Basically you're going to make up for all the things you feel Jeff has denied you?
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Ms. Wright:
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Yes but I realize I was denying those things to me also. It wasn't all Jeff's fault. If I'd stuck up for myself when I should've, I probably wouldn't be in the mess I'm in now. I let Jeff, and Robby as far as that goes, treat me the way they did. That was my fault. But as you know, things are not that way any more.
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Dr. Balis:
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Yes Sarah, I've seen some major changes in your attitude since we've begun our sessions together.
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Ms. Wright:
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Well, I have to say you've helped me realize so much. I don't know if I could've gotten this far without your help and support, Dr. B.
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Dr. Balis:
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Thank you Sarah, I'm glad that you feel I've been able to help you through some difficult times. We have a few minutes left, do you mind if I ask you about Glen?
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Ms. Wright:
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He called me last week from work. I'm glad Jeff didn't answer the phone.
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Dr. Balis:
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What did you say?
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Ms. Wright:
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Basically he just wanted to make sure I was okay, but then he asked if we could get together for lunch sometime the week after Christmas. Lisa's parents are coming for 2 weeks and Lisa will be occupied with them, so neither of us will be missed for a few hours.
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Dr. Balis:
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Did you agree to meet him for lunch?
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Ms. Wright:
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Well, I told him I had to check my calendar and see what days I had free.
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Dr. Balis:
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But do you intend to meet him clandestinely?
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Ms. Wright:
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Yes, I think I will.
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Dr. Balis:
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Have you given this sufficient thought?
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Ms. Wright:
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No I'm sure I haven't, but just having lunch with the man doesn't mean we'll end up in bed together.
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Dr. Balis:
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You're right, it doesn't have to result in a physical relationship. I would just like to suggest...
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Ms. Wright:
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Oh look, our time is up for today...don't want to make you late for your next appointment!
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Dr. Balis:
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Okay Sarah, I can take a hint. Can you come in next week at the same time?
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Ms. Wright:
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Well, if it's okay with you, I'd like to skip next week. I'm going to have so much to do just before Christmas. How about the week after?
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Dr. Balis:
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Let's see. That'll be Monday, December 30th at 2:00pm? That should be fine.
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Ms. Wright:
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Thanks. Have a Merry Christmas Dr. B.!
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Dr. Balis:
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Thank you Sarah. Merry Christmas to you too. See you on the 30th.
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Ms. Wright:
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Goodbye.
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Dr. Balis:
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Goodbye.
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Doctor Balis' Notes on this Session
Transcripts of Sarah Wright's Communications
