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Ms. Green:
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Hello, Doctor Balis. I'm so sorry you felt ill last week. How are you doing? Better?
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Dr. Balis:
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Hello, Anna. I'm much better, thank you. But I got a message from my answering service that you called in to cancel our session last week, just as they told you that I was too sick to see my patients. What's up? Where you sick?
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Ms. Green:
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In a manner of speaking. But I didn't think they would have told you anything.
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Dr. Balis:
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They tell me everything.
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Ms. Green:
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I should remember that.
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Dr. Balis:
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So what's up?
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Ms. Green:
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I've been living the life of a fugitive. I haven't been home in over a week. And last Thursday I was in Davis with my parents.
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Dr. Balis:
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I see. Has Martin tried to contact you?
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Ms. Green:
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Oh, it's so much worse than that, Doctor.
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Dr. Balis:
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What happened, Anna?
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Ms. Green:
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They hired him!
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Dr. Balis:
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They who?
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Ms. Green:
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SII, that's who.
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Dr. Balis:
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Martin is now working for SII?
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Ms. Green:
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They recruited him right from school, even before he graduated. Apparently he applied to SII sometime in April. They went out there to meet him and hired him, just like that! Apple offered him a job as well. And I guess SII thought that if Apple wanted him at the time they were firing everyone else, he must be hot shit. So now he's at SII doing god knows what.
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Dr. Balis:
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And he never told you anything?
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Ms. Green:
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Nothing. All those endless messages and he never told me the most important thing--he was going to live and work with me!
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Dr. Balis:
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I see. Have you seen him yet?
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Ms. Green:
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No. I told you, I've been living the life of a fugitive. It started the night I left your office two weeks ago and...oh, it simply has been awful. I'm even thinking about quitting SII and going to work in some other country or something.
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Dr. Balis:
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That's a bit drastic, don't you think? You shouldn't give Martin or anyone else that much power over your life choices and decisions. Would you consider leaving your work and your home if Martin wasn't here?
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Ms. Green:
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Of course not. I love where I live and I even like working for SII--it's like a home to me now. But...
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Dr. Balis:
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Not "buts." Martin is just a guy you dated for a few weeks. So what if he works for SII?
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Ms. Green:
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Yes, but...you just don't understand, Doctor.
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Dr. Balis:
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I understand perfectly, Anna. Martin probably took this job so that he can be around you. Maybe he hopes to try to win your heart back. There is a high chance that you will run into him a lot at work and around town. But as unpleasant as those prospects are, it's only going to be bad for the first few months. After a while, Martin will realize that it's over between you two and will eventually leave you alone.
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Ms. Green:
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A few months! I don't know if I can take it for that long.
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Dr. Balis:
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Of course you can, Anna. You're not giving yourself enough credit.
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Ms. Green:
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I don't know. It's been such a horrible two weeks.
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Dr. Balis:
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Why don't you tell me about them?
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Ms. Green:
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I wasn't successful getting hold of Kathy, the evening I left your office. So I finally called Caren. She let me stay with her and Greg and, that night, I told them the whole story about Martin and everything that happened since.
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Dr. Balis:
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How did they take it?
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Ms. Green:
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Oh, they were both extremely supportive. But to be truthful, I didn't exactly give them all the details--I didn't think Caren was ready for that yet.
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Dr. Balis:
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Did you tell them about your experience with Gray?
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Ms. Green:
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I told them an edited version.
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Dr. Balis:
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Oh?
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Ms. Green:
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I didn't think I could explain why I found the experience pleasureful at some level.
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Dr. Balis:
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So you presented the whole thing in a negative light?
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Ms. Green:
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I told them that I didn't like feeling the pain. And that's completely true. I didn't like it. But I did tell them that Gray and I had sex that night and that I felt very bad about that and that I blamed Martin for pushing me into a very bad situation. And they agreed with me about that. In fact, Greg was outraged that Martin supported my efforts in trying to understand his--Martin's--sexual perversions. He said that if a man truly loved a woman, he would never have allowed her to go with another man and...well, let's just say Greg was very protective of me. They both said that they understood now why I kept my distance from them and that they will now try to do everything they can to help me.
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Dr. Balis:
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That's nice.
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Ms. Green:
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Very nice. Caren is a legal secretary, if you remember. So as soon as she got to work on Friday, she looked up Martin--she wanted to know when his graduation was and just to check on him in general. That's when she found out that Martin was hired by SII. His graduation was actually a week before and he could have been in town when I first thought that I saw him that time on the beach. But as soon as Caren knew that Martin was now working for SII, she called home--they let me sleep in and I was still in their apartment when she called--and told me about it. Greg insisted that I stay with them that weekend. I called in sick to work--in fact, I did feel very sick. Greg was nice enough to volunteer to go to my apartment and pick up some changes of clothes for me.
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Dr. Balis:
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So that's how you avoided seeing Martin that first weekend. Have you been to work since then?
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Ms. Green:
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Greg went and talked with Jules for me. I'm not sure exactly what Greg told him, he just said that they had a "man to man" talk about Martin. Jules called after that and told me that he arranged for me to do some work at home. He even insisted that I stay away until he has had a chance to check out Martin.
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Dr. Balis:
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Jules is very protective of you.
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Ms. Green:
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I'm the only woman in his department and...yes, he is. I took my computer and spent the next week with my parents in Davis. I came back the following Sunday. Kathy volunteered to stay with me for a few days. It's now been five.
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Dr. Balis:
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Did Martin try to contact you in all this time?
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Ms. Green:
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He sent me a letter saying that he was in town and that he took the job at SII to be close to me. He left a few phone messages--nothing too important, just saying hello. And I think I saw him once across the street from my apartment, but I'm not sure about that.
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Dr. Balis:
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It doesn't sound too bad.
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Ms. Green:
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No. But I haven't been alone yet either.
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Dr. Balis:
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When is Kathy moving out?
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Ms. Green:
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She's going to a leather show over the weekend. So she's got to leave tomorrow. Do you believe it? There are trade shows for whips and stuff--new trends in bondage wear, come and check out new technologies!
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Dr. Balis:
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That is funny. It seems like the basic technology goes back thousands of years--whips and chains and the like. I wouldn't expect a lot of recent innovations. Are you going to go up to Davis again over the weekend?
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Ms. Green:
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No. My parents are freaked as it is.
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Dr. Balis:
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Why are they freaked?
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Ms. Green:
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I guess they know something is going on that I'm not telling them. Something bad enough that I come and stay with them for weeks at a time. I'm surprised my mom is not coming to live with me. She worries about me living alone all the time.
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Dr. Balis:
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Do you have plans with Caren and Greg or are you going to try being on your own for a few days?
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Ms. Green:
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You're making me feel bad about myself, Doctor.
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Dr. Balis:
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It's not my intention. But I do think that you're running away from your problems. I think you should talk to Martin and set some ground rules for interacting with him, since you are now sharing not only a city of residence but an employer as well. You can't go on avoiding him forever. And I also don't want Martin to feel like he is playing some sort of pursuit game with you. By trying so hard to avoid him, you might actually encourage Martin to try harder to get you.
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Ms. Green:
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Oh, that sounds really bad. That would be a sick game to play.
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Dr. Balis:
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Yes, I don't think it would be good. I believe you need to talk to Martin and tell him that you're not interested in having a relationship with him.
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Ms. Green:
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Relationship! I'm not interested in being in the same place at the same time.
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Dr. Balis:
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Then tell him that and get on with your life.
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Ms. Green:
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Hmm.
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Dr. Balis:
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You can only go on hiding for so long.
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Ms. Green:
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I know. I'll try, Doctor. I'll really try. It's getting late. I need to get home; Kathy is cooking dinner for me tonight.
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Dr. Balis:
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Okay. I'll see you next week, Anna. But think about what I said.
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Ms. Green:
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I will. Goodbye, Doctor.
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Dr. Balis:
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Goodbye, Anna. Have a nice dinner.
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Ms. Green:
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Oh, thank you, I will. Kathy is a very good cook. She's been spoiling me rotten.
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Doctor Balis' Notes on this Session
Transcripts of Anna Green's Communications
